Yesterday was my 23rd birthday. Here a few life lessons that I have learned by my 23rd year of life:
It is easy to conform and follow the latest, enticing trends of here and now. Discomfort is always felt by putting your neck out on the line and saying I disagree, I’m going to do my own thing. It’s not easy to be comfortable in your own skin…to really look at yourself in the mirror and say I love and accept you. For me, being myself, being comfortable with the person God has made me to be has taken prayer, daily reassurance and patience. Some days I find myself saying:
Yes, I am smart enough. Yes, I can do it if I work hard. Girrrl, Chelsea, you look so good today!
While I am not completely comfortable with who I am, I have come a long way, especially in this last year. Living abroad in Spain and China, blogging, and creating YouTube videos have helped me tremendously. Through these experiences I have felt raw and vulnerable because I was forced outside of my comfort zone and connected with my inner most thoughts. I learned that if I wasn’t true to myself, I would be eaten alive and crippled by criticism, doubt and fear.
I have embraced my quirkiness and nerdiness. I’ve learned that it’s okay to say I don’t drink, can’t dance, and that I prefer chillin´ at home, watching my favorite shows than going to a party or outing. There are traits and attributes that I would love to change about myself, but then I wouldn’t be Chelsea aka Rookie Notes, now would I?
Success does not happen overnight
As much as I would like to be where I envision myself, I am not going to get there without hard work and consistency. My dreams can and will come true, I just have to grind first.
Waiting to the last minute only screws me over. It’s something I am actively working on. Anyone have any tips?
Trust in the Lord
I always want to be in control and run my life’s show how I see fit. When this happens, everything usually falls apart. I have to remember that there is a Director who knows the scenes of my life and His timing is impeccable. I am learning that I am not the first person to have my problems or concerns, and I definitely will not be the last. When I relinquish control, and trust God, I know I will reach box office gold.
The word definitely is not the same as defiantly. I finally, got the hang of the spelling of these two words.
Listen to your parents
I’m 23 and I think I know how to handle situations, but there are always those who have been there and done that. Those who have earned their “badges of life” know a thing or two and can be useful in providing insight. Although you may be grown, it never hurts to listen to your elders, including the ‘rents.
Don’t wait on others
As a Sociology major, I learned that groups and human connections are essential for survival. However, some of my biggest accomplishments and feats happened when I took the initiative and didn’t wait on others. I’ve learned that if you want to do something, just do it and do not depend on others to get it done. If I waited on someone to accompany me, I would have never moved to Spain nor would I have ventured to the Sahara Desert.
Know more than one language. You look cooler and smarter.
With all the fear mongering that goes on in the news, it is easy to view the world as a bleak, dangerous place. I’ve traveled to a few countries and lived in two “developing” countries. Don’t get me wrong, I need to see a lot more of the world, but I’ve found that for the most part, life outside of America is not what is portrayed on the news. Common sense and respecting the culture you’re in goes a long way.
No life directions
It’s okay to be a late bloomer. It is okay not to go to graduate school right after undergraduate. It is okay not to know what you are doing. A lot of people look at me and think I’ve got it all together. The truth is, I have no idea what I am doing half the time; I make it up as I go and just trust that it will all work out.
Although life does not have any directions, always have back up plans. Never get too comfortable because the moment you think you’ve got life figured out, the rug is pulled from under your feet and you look like a deer in the headlights. Be prepared to do something else.
The adage it’s not what you know, it’s who you know is true.
Birds of a feather
It is easier to stay motivated and reach for the stars if the people around you are doing the same. When I look around and see my friends and peers soaring to high altitudes I feel encouraged and inspired. It pushes me to want the same for myself. The person you are and become is reflective of the company you keep.
If there is one lesson that I learned my 22nd year of life it would be to not overwork yourself. Overworking is counterproductive and a recipe for disaster. From spreading myself too thin, I’ve gotten sick and as a result, could not continue to keep working. Not what I wanted! I am learning how to call it quits and put my feet up. What’s life, if all you do is work?
Why so serious?
Of course, there are times where you need to be serious and focused. However, no one likes a person who is always on task, who cannot let a little loose and have fun. Embrace your inner child sometimes; you’ll age better. Photo
It’s okay not to be okay
Sometimes you just need to allow yourself to grieve and cry. When you are feeling sad or lonely, it’s good to reach out to others. No matter your situation, just know, there are better days ahead.
We are more alike than different
I have been fortunate to travel to unique destinations and interact with people who come from different ethnic groups, religions, socioeconomic statuses, etc. I’ve realized that people are people; there are good ones and bad ones. Across the board we share the same insecurities, fears, hopes and dreams. It’s odd, but sometimes I feel the most comfortable when I am with people who are perceived to be my opposite social mirror.
Make it rain!
Whenever money is my goal I fail. I’ll get excited in the beginning, but then I will gradually lose interest. When I am passionate about an assignment, my work shines through and I can endure the bumps that come with the process. Get involved in activities that makes your heart skip a beat. For me, it is blogging.
If a guy is interested in you, you will know. If he isn’t he’s not the one for you. Leave him alone.
Trust your gut. Your inner voice is there for a reason.
Smoothies work for me as I get much of my fruit and veggie servings from it. When I drink fruit/veggie smoothies I feel invigorated and my skin looks better.
It is always the moments after an explosion or temper tantrum (yes, adults have them too) where you realized that you looked like a complete idiot. Be slow to anger. Photo
In case you’ve missed it, check out:
Rookie Tips: How to Get a Passport in the USA (Part I)
Rookie Tips: How to Avoid ATM Fees While Traveling Abroad
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